Clingy vs Hard to Get

Unfortunately, the result of the feeling that the one guy you are seeing is the one and he just has to realize it, is a clingy vibe.

When you guys are trading emails or text messages but you never see one another, I can bet I know what the tone of those emails or text messages is. They have a subtext of let’s see each other.
Women like a guy who’s hard to get, this is why they play hard to get themselves. It doesn’t work though, when you do it in this passive aggressive way. When the emails don’t work, most women immediately switch to less emails or no emails, or waiting a longer time to respond to his emails (“I don’t want to seem desperate.”)
Nope.

The solution is MUCH simpler than that. I’m going to tell you how to do it. Basically, pretend that you are responding to someone who wants to see you, who you love, but you don’t want to see – perhaps a cousin, parent, aunt or uncle, or even an unsuccessful suitor. Read your emails, I’ll bet they hint either directly, “When am I going to see you?” or subtly, “When we get together, I’ll show you,” temptingly, “mmm….. I wonder if you’ll be able to handle it when we finally get together?” plaintively, “When are we going to have that dinner you keep promising me?” and jealously “If you’d finally taken me instead, you would have gotten home long before that!!”

Why doesn’t it work?
One reason is that it associates you to the wrong thought for this guy. Every time he thinks of you, he feels guilty for the get-togethers that he’s missing. You might even amplify that by saying something like “We were supposed to get together for drinks last week – you have to make it up to me!” This not only punishes him for keeping up the correspondence, but paints you into a corner, so that when he doesn’t respond apologetically (the High Status men will rarely do so unless they are not overly interested in you) you are forced to retaliate with more silence or more anger or both.